In this episode, I discuss dysfunctional family systems and how what we learn in childhood can follow us around forever, unless we take steps to move outside of these wounds, traumas, assumptions, and dysfunctions. I discuss examples of how this can impact how we interact in the workplace, in our friendships, and in our romantic relationships. Includes recommendations for resources to understand these dynamics.
Read MorePeople often talk smack about anxiously attached people, but how about those avoidant folks out here on these streets breaking everyone's heart into smithereens? In this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss anxious attachment, why they're the most common people to encounter in the dating landscape for all my fellow single people, what could have caused this, and some questions to ask and things to be on the lookout for as you date and try to avoid the avoidants!
Read MoreIn this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss something we all experience at least once in our lives - the ending of relationships! Whether it's romantic or friendship, we've all had relationships end, and many of us have been dumped. I talk about how the best way to approach being dumped or left is simply to accept it, rather than fight it or seeking endless conversations and closure. I talk about how closure should come from within ourselves, and we should not rely on others for our own healing process and ability to move on. Closure is within you, nowhere else.
Read MoreIs forgiveness necessary or relevant when we are healing our trauma, our shadows, and our wounds? Do we need to forgive family members, or anyone who has hurt us in the past? In this episode, I discuss my own healing journey, and how forgiveness - though it was not on my radar at all, and was not something I strived for - somehow happened to me anyway. Is forgiveness necessary for your journey? I explain why or why not, and offer a perspective contrary to what we tend to see in a lot of pop psych woo woo spaces. With so many people seeing family this holiday season, it seems a relevant topic to discuss!
Read MoreA certain kind of person will be inspired by you one minute and then block you the next. When they realize what you've built isn't quite so easy to achieve overnight, they end up resenting the fact that they ever encountered you. Their own failure at what you inspired them to do makes them resent you. They shift the blame onto you in order to avoid the pain of their own failure. They don't realize failure is a necessary initiation into the possibility of success.
Whatever side of that coin you fall on, whether you're a dreamer, influencer, small business owner, or just a human doing your best to live the best life possible, I'm sure you've failed, been resentful, been resented, been inspired, inspired others, and been tempted to blame everyone for your own failures (and give up on chasing your dreams). This episode talks about all of these complicated things, how they relate to each other, and how we can best look at things through these topsy turvy ups and downs.
Read MoreIn this episode, I give my analysis of two recent massive blow-ups in the spiritual wellness and self help influencer space: femininity teacher Wizard Liz' husband cheating on her while she was 4 months pregnant, and self-styled wellness 'guru' Aubrey Marcus basically forcing his gorgeous yet miserable wife into a throuple situation. You may think this is irrelevant to you; maybe it is - I myself had never heard of any of these people before last week. However, there are some interesting similarities here between these stories, the most troubling of which (to anyone who is spiritually minded) is how both of these men used spirituality in predatory ways to manipulate the women in question.
Marcus claimed the Goddess Isis told him to impregnate both women; Liz' husband said he was 'spiritually guided' to 'run into her' at an airport. Both men use spirituality to manipulate, and both men are really good examples of what I'd refer to as a toxic, wounded feminine energy. They manipulate, and are unable or unwilling to occupy healthy masculine energy which - above all - protects and contains.
For many these two scenarios seemed surprising or out of character, but in this episode I explain some red flags in these men, and failures of the women involved, that all can learn from, especially women who are dating men, or women who are in relationships where they feel coerced to allow indiscretions.
I analyze the situation in terms of energetic polarity and healthy/unhealthy feminine energy, and discuss the difference between parroting spiritual/mental health teachings, and actually being able to embody the knowledge we as influencers espouse. I also discuss how these relationships were prematurely escalated with love bombing and false intimacy, and how you can learn from these situations to avoid ending up in something similar yourself.
Read MoreIn this episode I talk about what is - in my opinion - the number one relationship killer: contempt! If your relationship is contemptuous... it's doomed! In this episode I dive into what contempt looks like, how it feels, what it tries to achieve, why it happens, how it can cause us to act (without us realizing it), and what we can do when we experience it. This is also a call out to anyone who does fall into acting contemptuous in your relationships: cut it out! And if your relationship has contempt in it... get out sooner rather than later.
Read MoreAs therapy speak becomes more common, I've noticed that many people have a total misunderstanding of what boundaries actually are. People will complain about 'boundaries' when other people don't behave how they want them to. But - newsflash - boundaries are at their core really about US, and our behaviour: the one thing we do have control over. In this episode, I talk about what boundaries are, and how best to think about and enact them.
Read MoreIs love enough? 'Love' has been a word/concept people in abusive and dysfunctional relationships often use to stay in the relationships they're in. This is a bad idea. In this episode of Secrets of a Witch - with thoughts inspired by binge-watching the recent Netflix documentary on abused and murdered young woman Gabby Petito - I explain why.
Read MoreFor many, it can be so tempting to live a secret life. Being our true, honest selves can be scary: will anyone accept us in our mess? Will we get called out by friends and family for behaving badly or acting out of line? Would anyone truly love us if they knew all our kinks, desires, mistakes, and ugly points? When no one knows who we truly are, we insulate and isolate ourselves. When our friends, family, and community don't know who we actually are behind closed doors or what we're going through, it's easy to delude ourselves that everything is all good. Self-isolation is an unhealthy avoidance tactic: when we do this, we avoid both the possibility for true love and acceptance (and growth), and also having to be accountable (and perhaps make amends) for who we truly are. In this episode, I talk about why it's so much better to live an honest, transparent and vulnerable life, than one hidden in the darkness and the shadows.
Read MoreI share about what I learned from an ill advised situationship blowing up in my face. I broke some of my own rules, I knew better, and I played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. What red flags did I ignore? What did I learn from the experience? I mean, how DOES someone who made a podcast episode (two years ago!) about how bad and pointless situationships are, kinda end up in one? Listen to this episode to hear all about it (red flags of situationships or early dating) and learn from my mistakes so you don't make them. I also talk about how many of us know better yet break our own rules, and how it's so important to give ourselves grace, compassion, love, and forgiveness as we move forward with lessons and self worth.
Read MoreThis episode is about testing out our internal algorithms, our standard operating procedures, and the rules and regulations by which we lead our lives. I outline four of the main ways we - in my opinion - create these rules, and I discuss a recent example of breaking one of my own long-standing rules, how that went, and what I learned. What are the rules that create the boundaries of your own life? This episode will give you a lot to think about as you ponder your own life and circumstances.
Read MoreIn this episode, I talk about the importance of consistency, predictability, and reliability in all relationships, but especially romantic ones. Consistency creates emotional safety and trust in relationships, which creates more space for authentic intimacy to blossom. Listen to learn more about why this is so important. (And, side note: this isn't about perfectionism, but rather healthy emotionality and relating.)
Read MoreIn this Aries full moon (!) episode of the Claim Your Magic Podcast with Sabrina Scott, I talk about how trauma has layers to it - we can heal significantly, and then loop back to learn similar lessons at a different stage of healing from a different vantage point. I also discuss reaction time (and appropriate reactions) in relation to trauma, and share some personal anecdotes of men who try to 'humble' women - and what I want for us all instead. (Spoiler: Confident, happy people who completely own what they're good at, and who support others in their joy, art, achievements, and creativity!)
Read MoreA slight detour from our normal programming - let’s chat about the final episodes of Love Is Blind season 6! I know not everyone here will care about reality TV but as a total sincere sappy person who loves authentic love… I can’t help myself. Spoilers galore, be warned!
Read MoreMarried dudes sliding into my DMs and asking me out on dates - how fun! Did I tell the wife? Of course! Sadly this isn’t the first time this has happened and likely won’t be the last. In this episode I talk about integrity, honesty, values, and the importance of doing the right thing even when it’s hard. This can help our spiritual growth, too.
Read MoreIt can be hard as hell to live in alignment with our values - at first. But over time, it gets easier and easier, and catapults us into a life that feels uncomplicated and aligned. In this episode I talk a bit about this, and my own journey around these topics. I also share the most common reason folks come to me for tarot readings, and how holding our breath for the potential of other people can be a death sentence.
Read MoreThis is a niche episode, especially for my fellow coaches and people hiring coaches and anyone who spends a lot of time online. Let’s use our critical thinking skills. I explain the psychology of “let me be the mom you never had” marketing, why it’s predatory, and what coaching can be instead.
Read MoreHappy new moon! Feminine Energy Without Bullshit launches today. In this episode I talk about the tendency of many women to overgive and put everyone else above themselves. I share a bit about my journey and how I moved from self abandonment to a true and deeply rooted self love.
Read MoreHi friends! Happy new moon! This episode is a meandering ramble about how important it is to take responsibility for our behaviour and our choices. I talk a little bit about my own journey in life and business, as well as a bit about that insane twin flame cult and what disturbed me when I listened to interviews with folks who left.
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