Posts tagged love
Will The Avoidant Come Back? What To Do When They Return (And Why) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 245
Will The Avoidant Come Back? What To Do When They Return (And Why) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 245

In this episode, I discuss whether or not the person with avoidant attachment (who left you, ghosted you, cheated on you, etc) will come back and try and repent, and what to do when and if they do.

I also discuss reasons why people may stay in such toxic relationships, such as addiction to drama, financial greed, psychological codependency, an ego boost that no matter how often someone cheats they come back, etc.

The real question is - when the avoidant ex comes back, why would you even want them? Why do you feel compelled to give them a chance? Why do you have such low expectations for your life and the people in it? If you have a hard time extracting yourself from so much drama, there is likely a psychological reason that YOU are addicted/compelled to this push/pull cycle.

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Relationships, MindsetSabrina Scottattachment, avoidant attachment, avoidance, breakups, love, dating
What Does Healthy Empowered Masculine Energy Look Like? How To Notice It | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 239
What Does Healthy Empowered Masculine Energy Look Like? How To Notice It | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 239

In this episode, I discuss some qualities to be on the look out for if you are seeking to date and build romantic connections with people who are able to embody their healthy, empowered masculine energy. Not sure how to notice whether or not healthy masculine energy is present? Listen up, and take notes!

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Energy, RelationshipsSabrina Scottmasculine energy, wounded masculine energy, healthy masculine energy, dating, love, containment, self love, self control
How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Dating (Part 3: Ghosting, Shame, Secrets, Lies, and Discard) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 238
How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Dating (Part 3: Ghosting, Shame, Secrets, Lies, and Discard) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 238

Part three of what to know about avoidant people when you are single and dating!

Whether your avoidant date or partner is being self loathing, stuck in shame or addiction, has ghosted or discarded you, you will want to listen to this episode to learn more about what you are experiencing.

Are people secretive about their past? Do they get overwhelmed by shame? Do they keep secrets, do they bend the truth or lie easily? Do they keep secrets from their family, their workplace, or did they keep secrets in their past relationships? You will not be the exception - they will keep secrets from you too, and this can hide addictions, spending, criminal activity, and more fun things.

After my first podcast episode on this went viral, I've since learned many more things about avoidant attachment, and some huge warning signs you absolutely need to know in order to keep yourself protected and your heart safe in this hectic dating landscape. Still up for giving it a go with someone who has avoidant attachment, or maybe have avoidant attachment yourself? Give this episode of my podcast a listen and learn more about how to notice avoidant people in the dating landscape.

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RelationshipsSabrina Scottavoidant attachment, avoidance, relationships, love, dating, discard, secrets, lies, ghosting
How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating (Part 2: Self-Loathing and Shame) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 237
How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating (Part 2: Self-Loathing and Shame) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 237

After my first podcast episode on this went viral, I've since learned many more things about avoidant attachment, and some huge warning signs you absolutely need to know in order to keep yourself protected and your heart safe in this hectic dating landscape.

In this episode I talk about how avoidants tend to dislike themselves, and can even occupy a regular space of self loathing, self-hatred, and putting others on pedestals. This is not about you, do not be flattered by them putting you on a pedestal.

If they are intimidated by you and devalue themselves, this actually makes it more likely for them to leave. If this is the case, they will likely leave the relationship in a sudden, unexpected way with absolutely no warning or obvious reason. Their shame is often too great for them to connect with you despite their discomfort. They will also bring up their ex all the time for no reason - which is a sign of emotional unavailability.

Still up for giving it a go with someone who has avoidant attachment, or maybe have avoidant attachment yourself? Give this episode of my podcast a listen and learn more about how to notice avoidant people in the dating landscape.

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RelationshipsSabrina Scottdating, avoidance, avoidant attachment, love, intimacy, integrity
How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 231
How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 231

People often talk smack about anxiously attached people, but how about those avoidant folks out here on these streets breaking everyone's heart into smithereens? In this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss anxious attachment, why they're the most common people to encounter in the dating landscape for all my fellow single people, what could have caused this, and some questions to ask and things to be on the lookout for as you date and try to avoid the avoidants!

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RelationshipsSabrina Scottavoidance, avoidant attachment, attachment, love
When Someone Breaks Up With You, Let Them. Why We Need To Let Go Of Closure | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 230
When Someone Breaks Up With You, Let Them. Why We Need To Let Go Of Closure | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 230

In this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss something we all experience at least once in our lives - the ending of relationships! Whether it's romantic or friendship, we've all had relationships end, and many of us have been dumped. I talk about how the best way to approach being dumped or left is simply to accept it, rather than fight it or seeking endless conversations and closure. I talk about how closure should come from within ourselves, and we should not rely on others for our own healing process and ability to move on. Closure is within you, nowhere else.

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RelationshipsSabrina Scottavoidant attachment, avoidance, dating, love, trauma, childhood trauma, breakups, closure
The Number One Relationship Killer: Contempt | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 208
The Number One Relationship Killer: Contempt | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 208

In this episode I talk about what is - in my opinion - the number one relationship killer: contempt! If your relationship is contemptuous... it's doomed! In this episode I dive into what contempt looks like, how it feels, what it tries to achieve, why it happens, how it can cause us to act (without us realizing it), and what we can do when we experience it. This is also a call out to anyone who does fall into acting contemptuous in your relationships: cut it out! And if your relationship has contempt in it... get out sooner rather than later.

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RelationshipsSabrina Scottcontempt, respect, personal responsibility, personal power, love, dating, friendship, family, toxicity
What I Learned From A Situationship Ending (and Giving Ourselves Grace When We Break Our Own Rules) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 193
What I Learned From A Situationship Ending (and Giving Ourselves Grace When We Break Our Own Rules) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 193

I share about what I learned from an ill advised situationship blowing up in my face. I broke some of my own rules, I knew better, and I played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. What red flags did I ignore? What did I learn from the experience? I mean, how DOES someone who made a podcast episode (two years ago!) about how bad and pointless situationships are, kinda end up in one? Listen to this episode to hear all about it (red flags of situationships or early dating) and learn from my mistakes so you don't make them. I also talk about how many of us know better yet break our own rules, and how it's so important to give ourselves grace, compassion, love, and forgiveness as we move forward with lessons and self worth.

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Relationships, HealingSabrina Scottlove, self love, relationships, dating, situationships, sabotage, living well, healing, trauma
Play, Fear, Experimentation, and Writing Rules for Our Lives | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 192
Play, Fear, Experimentation, and Writing Rules for Our Lives | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 192

This episode is about testing out our internal algorithms, our standard operating procedures, and the rules and regulations by which we lead our lives. I outline four of the main ways we - in my opinion - create these rules, and I discuss a recent example of breaking one of my own long-standing rules, how that went, and what I learned. What are the rules that create the boundaries of your own life? This episode will give you a lot to think about as you ponder your own life and circumstances.

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Healing, Mindset, RelationshipsSabrina Scottliving well, level up, reflection, boundaries, love, relationships, dating
Consistency in Relationships Creates Emotional Safety | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 191
Consistency in Relationships Creates Emotional Safety | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 191

In this episode, I talk about the importance of consistency, predictability, and reliability in all relationships, but especially romantic ones. Consistency creates emotional safety and trust in relationships, which creates more space for authentic intimacy to blossom. Listen to learn more about why this is so important. (And, side note: this isn't about perfectionism, but rather healthy emotionality and relating.)

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Relationships, MindsetSabrina Scottlove, friendship, dating, relationships
Uncovering Layers of Trauma and Men Who Put Down Women | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast episode 184
Uncovering Layers of Trauma and Men Who Put Down Women | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast episode 184

In this Aries full moon (!) episode of the Claim Your Magic Podcast with Sabrina Scott, I talk about how trauma has layers to it - we can heal significantly, and then loop back to learn similar lessons at a different stage of healing from a different vantage point. I also discuss reaction time (and appropriate reactions) in relation to trauma, and share some personal anecdotes of men who try to 'humble' women - and what I want for us all instead. (Spoiler: Confident, happy people who completely own what they're good at, and who support others in their joy, art, achievements, and creativity!)

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Relationships, HealingSabrina Scotttrauma, dating, love, relationships, friendship, spiritual community, negativity
Final Thoughts on Love Is Blind Season 6: Not Everyone Is What They Seem | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 174
Final Thoughts on Love Is Blind Season 6: Not Everyone Is What They Seem | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 174

A slight detour from our normal programming - let’s chat about the final episodes of Love Is Blind season 6! I know not everyone here will care about reality TV but as a total sincere sappy person who loves authentic love… I can’t help myself. Spoilers galore, be warned!

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Critique, RelationshipsSabrina Scottreality tv, love is blind, love, documentary, relationships, dating
Tell Her: Or, the Importance of Doing the Right Thing | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 155
Tell Her: Or, the Importance of Doing the Right Thing | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 155

Married dudes sliding into my DMs and asking me out on dates - how fun! Did I tell the wife? Of course! Sadly this isn’t the first time this has happened and likely won’t be the last. In this episode I talk about integrity, honesty, values, and the importance of doing the right thing even when it’s hard. This can help our spiritual growth, too.

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Energy, Relationships, MindsetSabrina Scottboundaries, rejection, breakups, honesty, integrity, authenticity, living well, love
Are You Overgiving? Do You Feel You Need to Earn Love? Feminine Energy May Be What You Need | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 135
Are You Overgiving? Do You Feel You Need to Earn Love? Feminine Energy May Be What You Need | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 135

Happy new moon! Feminine Energy Without Bullshit launches today. In this episode I talk about the tendency of many women to overgive and put everyone else above themselves. I share a bit about my journey and how I moved from self abandonment to a true and deeply rooted self love.

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Healing, Energy, RelationshipsSabrina Scottrelationships, love, dating, overgiving, boundaries
Sex is Easy and Plentiful. Your Pussy is Precious and Sacred. Live Like It! | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 129
Sex is Easy and Plentiful. Your Pussy is Precious and Sacred. Live Like It! | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 129

In this episode, I talk about how my relationship to sex and my body has changed over time. As a young adult, I explored a lot, completely without emotion - having sex like many young men do. As I’ve gotten older, I have come to see the value in “the snail method” - taking sex super slowly, and getting to know (really really get to know) potential new partners before getting physical. I realize this is a spicy and contentious topic, and that I may get accused of slut shaming. I’m thankful for my experiences in my youth, they made me a confident and savvy woman in regards to sexuality. That being said, I do think a lot of adult women are having sex in ways that don’t benefit them, with men who don’t respect them. In this episode I talk about my perspective on that phenomenon, and how single ladies can avoid this very vulnerable kind of heartbreak of being sexually used.

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Relationships, MindsetSabrina Scottsex, dating, love, feminine energy, feelings, senses, sensory, self love, self care
What is a Pick Me and Why Is It Bad? How Can I Tell If I Am a Pick Me? | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 127
What is a Pick Me and Why Is It Bad? How Can I Tell If I Am a Pick Me? | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 127

By popular demand, in this episode I explain what a pick me woman (or “pickmeisha”) is. I give some examples of how pick me women act and think, as well as some of the extreme dark manifestations of this mindset and energy. I would argue that most women go through a phase like this as teens and young adults, and it’s part of stepping into womanhood to choose self worth, self love, and strong boundaries instead.

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Mindset, RelationshipsSabrina Scottdating, love, feminine energy, relationships, romance, pick me
It’s Better to Be Alone Than With a Wounded Energy Man, and Other Lessons From My Tarot Cards | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 92
It’s Better to Be Alone Than With a Wounded Energy Man, and Other Lessons From My Tarot Cards | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 92

Have you ever dated someone and felt more alone when you were with them, than when you were actually by yourself? In this episode I talk about a few recent tarot readings where the same exact cards came up, and what I learned from those cards (and, of course, what you can learn from these cards when they come up in your own tarot readings). Topics of the day include wounded masculine energy, the importance of recording your tarot readings, why the King of Cups reversed is a red flag in relationship readings, and two perfectly contrasting Swords cards. Join me?

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Energy, RelationshipsSabrina Scottmasculine energy, wounded masculine energy, healthy masculine energy, feminine energy, love, relationships
A Hatred of Flakiness May Mean You Betray Your Own Boundaries | Secrets of a Witch episode 88
A Hatred of Flakiness May Mean You Betray Your Own Boundaries | Secrets of a Witch episode 88

Hi friends! Controversial podcast episode alert! Do you absolutely HATE when people are “flaky” - or don’t always follow through and come to plans? If so, this may be a sign that you actually betray your own boundaries on the regular, say yes when you wanna say no, and expect others to do the same. There’s other ways to live! In this episode I break down my take on this and talk about how we can all live lives that are more curious, peaceful, and understanding.

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Relationships, HealingSabrina Scottflakiness, boundaries, mindset, living well, friendship, love, dating, relationships
The Magic of Summer Solstice, and a Reminder to Keep Your Standards High | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 87
The Magic of Summer Solstice, and a Reminder to Keep Your Standards High | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 87

Hi all! First of all, HAPPY SUMMER SOLSTICE! After some chat about how to honour this magical moment, I discuss dating dynamics among men and women today, and remind women of the importance of keeping our standards high - respecting our own dreams for our lives and not allowing anyone to bully us out of our desires, no matter how cute they are.

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Spirituality, MindsetSabrina Scottholidays, summer solstice, solstice, standards, high standards, boundaries, self love, self care, dating, friendship, love
No Response Is A Response: My Take on Ghosting | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 86
No Response Is A Response: My Take on Ghosting | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 86

Everyone hates ghosting, it seems - well, except for me! In this episode I talk about abundance mindset, the importance of cultivating an internal locus of control, a widespread misplaced obsession with closure, and why I don’t think ghosting is that big of a deal, especially in the early days. Controversial, I know!

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Mindset, RelationshipsSabrina Scottghosting, relationships, romance, love, perspective, projection