How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating (Part 2: Self-Loathing and Shame) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 237
After my first podcast episode on this went viral, I've since learned many more things about avoidant attachment, and some huge warning signs you absolutely need to know in order to keep yourself protected and your heart safe in this hectic dating landscape.
In this episode I talk about how avoidants tend to dislike themselves, and can even occupy a regular space of self loathing, self-hatred, and putting others on pedestals. This is not about you, do not be flattered by them putting you on a pedestal.
If they are intimidated by you and devalue themselves, this actually makes it more likely for them to leave. If this is the case, they will likely leave the relationship in a sudden, unexpected way with absolutely no warning or obvious reason. Their shame is often too great for them to connect with you despite their discomfort. They will also bring up their ex all the time for no reason - which is a sign of emotional unavailability.
Still up for giving it a go with someone who has avoidant attachment, or maybe have avoidant attachment yourself? Give this episode of my podcast a listen and learn more about how to notice avoidant people in the dating landscape.
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Secrets of a Witch is a podcast by writer, artist, and spiritual teacher Sabrina Scott. She’s been a practicing witch and medium for more than 25 years, and in this casual, mellow show she shares her secrets and musings about how to overcome pain and live a happy, magical life. She is the author of five books: Witchbody; Curse and Cure: Magic for Real Life; Rapeseed: Poetry and Writing About Life After Rape; Bodymagic: A Graphic Novel About Witchcraft, Trauma, and Healing; and A Witch at Home: 18 Rituals for Life, Love, and Healing. You can learn more about Sabrina, book a tarot reading, and learn about her courses at sabrinamscott.com, and say hi on Instagram @sabrinamscott. Email her at ceo@sabrinamscott.com