Posts tagged dating
Will The Avoidant Come Back? What To Do When They Return (And Why) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 245

In this episode, I discuss whether or not the person with avoidant attachment (who left you, ghosted you, cheated on you, etc) will come back and try and repent, and what to do when and if they do.

I also discuss reasons why people may stay in such toxic relationships, such as addiction to drama, financial greed, psychological codependency, an ego boost that no matter how often someone cheats they come back, etc.

The real question is - when the avoidant ex comes back, why would you even want them? Why do you feel compelled to give them a chance? Why do you have such low expectations for your life and the people in it? If you have a hard time extracting yourself from so much drama, there is likely a psychological reason that YOU are addicted/compelled to this push/pull cycle.

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What Does Healthy Empowered Masculine Energy Look Like? How To Notice It | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 239

In this episode, I discuss some qualities to be on the look out for if you are seeking to date and build romantic connections with people who are able to embody their healthy, empowered masculine energy. Not sure how to notice whether or not healthy masculine energy is present? Listen up, and take notes!

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How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Dating (Part 3: Ghosting, Shame, Secrets, Lies, and Discard) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 238

Part three of what to know about avoidant people when you are single and dating!

Whether your avoidant date or partner is being self loathing, stuck in shame or addiction, has ghosted or discarded you, you will want to listen to this episode to learn more about what you are experiencing.

Are people secretive about their past? Do they get overwhelmed by shame? Do they keep secrets, do they bend the truth or lie easily? Do they keep secrets from their family, their workplace, or did they keep secrets in their past relationships? You will not be the exception - they will keep secrets from you too, and this can hide addictions, spending, criminal activity, and more fun things.

After my first podcast episode on this went viral, I've since learned many more things about avoidant attachment, and some huge warning signs you absolutely need to know in order to keep yourself protected and your heart safe in this hectic dating landscape. Still up for giving it a go with someone who has avoidant attachment, or maybe have avoidant attachment yourself? Give this episode of my podcast a listen and learn more about how to notice avoidant people in the dating landscape.

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How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating (Part 2: Self-Loathing and Shame) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 237

After my first podcast episode on this went viral, I've since learned many more things about avoidant attachment, and some huge warning signs you absolutely need to know in order to keep yourself protected and your heart safe in this hectic dating landscape.

In this episode I talk about how avoidants tend to dislike themselves, and can even occupy a regular space of self loathing, self-hatred, and putting others on pedestals. This is not about you, do not be flattered by them putting you on a pedestal.

If they are intimidated by you and devalue themselves, this actually makes it more likely for them to leave. If this is the case, they will likely leave the relationship in a sudden, unexpected way with absolutely no warning or obvious reason. Their shame is often too great for them to connect with you despite their discomfort. They will also bring up their ex all the time for no reason - which is a sign of emotional unavailability.

Still up for giving it a go with someone who has avoidant attachment, or maybe have avoidant attachment yourself? Give this episode of my podcast a listen and learn more about how to notice avoidant people in the dating landscape.

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When Someone Breaks Up With You, Let Them. Why We Need To Let Go Of Closure | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 230

In this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss something we all experience at least once in our lives - the ending of relationships! Whether it's romantic or friendship, we've all had relationships end, and many of us have been dumped. I talk about how the best way to approach being dumped or left is simply to accept it, rather than fight it or seeking endless conversations and closure. I talk about how closure should come from within ourselves, and we should not rely on others for our own healing process and ability to move on. Closure is within you, nowhere else.

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Fast-Tracked Intimacy, Love Bombing, and Spiritual Manipulation: Toxic Feminine Energy Men and the Cases of Wizard Liz and Aubrey Marcus | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 213

In this episode, I give my analysis of two recent massive blow-ups in the spiritual wellness and self help influencer space: femininity teacher Wizard Liz' husband cheating on her while she was 4 months pregnant, and self-styled wellness 'guru' Aubrey Marcus basically forcing his gorgeous yet miserable wife into a throuple situation. You may think this is irrelevant to you; maybe it is - I myself had never heard of any of these people before last week. However, there are some interesting similarities here between these stories, the most troubling of which (to anyone who is spiritually minded) is how both of these men used spirituality in predatory ways to manipulate the women in question.

Marcus claimed the Goddess Isis told him to impregnate both women; Liz' husband said he was 'spiritually guided' to 'run into her' at an airport. Both men use spirituality to manipulate, and both men are really good examples of what I'd refer to as a toxic, wounded feminine energy. They manipulate, and are unable or unwilling to occupy healthy masculine energy which - above all - protects and contains.

For many these two scenarios seemed surprising or out of character, but in this episode I explain some red flags in these men, and failures of the women involved, that all can learn from, especially women who are dating men, or women who are in relationships where they feel coerced to allow indiscretions.

I analyze the situation in terms of energetic polarity and healthy/unhealthy feminine energy, and discuss the difference between parroting spiritual/mental health teachings, and actually being able to embody the knowledge we as influencers espouse. I also discuss how these relationships were prematurely escalated with love bombing and false intimacy, and how you can learn from these situations to avoid ending up in something similar yourself.

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The Number One Relationship Killer: Contempt | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 208

In this episode I talk about what is - in my opinion - the number one relationship killer: contempt! If your relationship is contemptuous... it's doomed! In this episode I dive into what contempt looks like, how it feels, what it tries to achieve, why it happens, how it can cause us to act (without us realizing it), and what we can do when we experience it. This is also a call out to anyone who does fall into acting contemptuous in your relationships: cut it out! And if your relationship has contempt in it... get out sooner rather than later.

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What I Learned From A Situationship Ending (and Giving Ourselves Grace When We Break Our Own Rules) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 193

I share about what I learned from an ill advised situationship blowing up in my face. I broke some of my own rules, I knew better, and I played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. What red flags did I ignore? What did I learn from the experience? I mean, how DOES someone who made a podcast episode (two years ago!) about how bad and pointless situationships are, kinda end up in one? Listen to this episode to hear all about it (red flags of situationships or early dating) and learn from my mistakes so you don't make them. I also talk about how many of us know better yet break our own rules, and how it's so important to give ourselves grace, compassion, love, and forgiveness as we move forward with lessons and self worth.

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Play, Fear, Experimentation, and Writing Rules for Our Lives | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 192

This episode is about testing out our internal algorithms, our standard operating procedures, and the rules and regulations by which we lead our lives. I outline four of the main ways we - in my opinion - create these rules, and I discuss a recent example of breaking one of my own long-standing rules, how that went, and what I learned. What are the rules that create the boundaries of your own life? This episode will give you a lot to think about as you ponder your own life and circumstances.

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Consistency in Relationships Creates Emotional Safety | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 191

In this episode, I talk about the importance of consistency, predictability, and reliability in all relationships, but especially romantic ones. Consistency creates emotional safety and trust in relationships, which creates more space for authentic intimacy to blossom. Listen to learn more about why this is so important. (And, side note: this isn't about perfectionism, but rather healthy emotionality and relating.)

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Uncovering Layers of Trauma and Men Who Put Down Women | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast episode 184

In this Aries full moon (!) episode of the Claim Your Magic Podcast with Sabrina Scott, I talk about how trauma has layers to it - we can heal significantly, and then loop back to learn similar lessons at a different stage of healing from a different vantage point. I also discuss reaction time (and appropriate reactions) in relation to trauma, and share some personal anecdotes of men who try to 'humble' women - and what I want for us all instead. (Spoiler: Confident, happy people who completely own what they're good at, and who support others in their joy, art, achievements, and creativity!)

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Final Thoughts on Love Is Blind Season 6: Not Everyone Is What They Seem | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 174

A slight detour from our normal programming - let’s chat about the final episodes of Love Is Blind season 6! I know not everyone here will care about reality TV but as a total sincere sappy person who loves authentic love… I can’t help myself. Spoilers galore, be warned!

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Are You Overgiving? Do You Feel You Need to Earn Love? Feminine Energy May Be What You Need | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 135

Happy new moon! Feminine Energy Without Bullshit launches today. In this episode I talk about the tendency of many women to overgive and put everyone else above themselves. I share a bit about my journey and how I moved from self abandonment to a true and deeply rooted self love.

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Say NO to Drinks Dates! Why Be With Someone Who Won’t Nourish You? | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 130

Hello my beautiful single ladies! In this episode I talk a little bit about a very common dating norm: going out “for drinks” on a date. I explain why this is not the way to go, how it can create situations where we abandon our own boundaries, where it’s harder to listen to our intuition, and it sets up a dynamic where someone is okay with getting us intoxicated rather than nourishing our bodies.

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Sex is Easy and Plentiful. Your Pussy is Precious and Sacred. Live Like It! | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 129

In this episode, I talk about how my relationship to sex and my body has changed over time. As a young adult, I explored a lot, completely without emotion - having sex like many young men do. As I’ve gotten older, I have come to see the value in “the snail method” - taking sex super slowly, and getting to know (really really get to know) potential new partners before getting physical. I realize this is a spicy and contentious topic, and that I may get accused of slut shaming. I’m thankful for my experiences in my youth, they made me a confident and savvy woman in regards to sexuality. That being said, I do think a lot of adult women are having sex in ways that don’t benefit them, with men who don’t respect them. In this episode I talk about my perspective on that phenomenon, and how single ladies can avoid this very vulnerable kind of heartbreak of being sexually used.

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What is a Pick Me and Why Is It Bad? How Can I Tell If I Am a Pick Me? | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 127

By popular demand, in this episode I explain what a pick me woman (or “pickmeisha”) is. I give some examples of how pick me women act and think, as well as some of the extreme dark manifestations of this mindset and energy. I would argue that most women go through a phase like this as teens and young adults, and it’s part of stepping into womanhood to choose self worth, self love, and strong boundaries instead.

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A Hatred of Flakiness May Mean You Betray Your Own Boundaries | Secrets of a Witch episode 88

Hi friends! Controversial podcast episode alert! Do you absolutely HATE when people are “flaky” - or don’t always follow through and come to plans? If so, this may be a sign that you actually betray your own boundaries on the regular, say yes when you wanna say no, and expect others to do the same. There’s other ways to live! In this episode I break down my take on this and talk about how we can all live lives that are more curious, peaceful, and understanding.

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The Magic of Summer Solstice, and a Reminder to Keep Your Standards High | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 87

Hi all! First of all, HAPPY SUMMER SOLSTICE! After some chat about how to honour this magical moment, I discuss dating dynamics among men and women today, and remind women of the importance of keeping our standards high - respecting our own dreams for our lives and not allowing anyone to bully us out of our desires, no matter how cute they are.

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It’s Okay To Admit You Are Not A Bad Bitch! Vulnerability After Heartbreak Is Healthy | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 83

Hi friends! In this episode I discuss something I’ve seen a lot of, mostly after women end a relationship with a man who ended up using them, playing them, lying to them, cheating on them, or whatever else. The fact is, no, you aren’t a baddie with high queen life standards if you see the warning signs and ignore them. Yes, shitty people are shitty, it’s true - all bugs are attracted to the light, both ones that bite and ones that are beautiful: once we get a glimpse of who someone is, we get to choose who and what we entertain. It’s okay to take off our mask, admit we got played, get vulnerable, and really examine ourselves to avoid something similar in the future. In this episode I talk about how this is unavoidable, actually, if we want to heal these wounds around worthiness, discernment, and abandonment in dating.

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