avoidance — The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott

Will The Avoidant Come Back? What To Do When They Return (And Why) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 246

In this episode, I discuss whether or not the person with avoidant attachment (who left you, ghosted you, cheated on you, etc) will come back and try and repent, and what to do when and if they do.

I also discuss reasons why people may stay in such toxic relationships, such as addiction to drama, financial greed, psychological codependency, an ego boost that no matter how often someone cheats they come back, etc.

The real question is - when the avoidant ex comes back, why would you even want them? Why do you feel compelled to give them a chance? Why do you have such low expectations for your life and the people in it? If you have a hard time extracting yourself from so much drama, there is likely a psychological reason that YOU are addicted/compelled to this push/pull cycle.

Relationships, MindsetSabrina ScottApril 27, 2026attachment, avoidant attachment, avoidance, breakups, love, dating

How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Dating (Part 3: Ghosting, Shame, Secrets, Lies, and Discard) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 238

Part three of what to know about avoidant people when you are single and dating!

Whether your avoidant date or partner is being self loathing, stuck in shame or addiction, has ghosted or discarded you, you will want to listen to this episode to learn more about what you are experiencing.

Are people secretive about their past? Do they get overwhelmed by shame? Do they keep secrets, do they bend the truth or lie easily? Do they keep secrets from their family, their workplace, or did they keep secrets in their past relationships? You will not be the exception - they will keep secrets from you too, and this can hide addictions, spending, criminal activity, and more fun things.

After my first podcast episode on this went viral, I've since learned many more things about avoidant attachment, and some huge warning signs you absolutely need to know in order to keep yourself protected and your heart safe in this hectic dating landscape. Still up for giving it a go with someone who has avoidant attachment, or maybe have avoidant attachment yourself? Give this episode of my podcast a listen and learn more about how to notice avoidant people in the dating landscape.

RelationshipsSabrina ScottMarch 30, 2026avoidant attachment, avoidance, relationships, love, dating, discard, secrets, lies, ghosting

How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating (Part 2: Self-Loathing and Shame) | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 237

After my first podcast episode on this went viral, I've since learned many more things about avoidant attachment, and some huge warning signs you absolutely need to know in order to keep yourself protected and your heart safe in this hectic dating landscape.

In this episode I talk about how avoidants tend to dislike themselves, and can even occupy a regular space of self loathing, self-hatred, and putting others on pedestals. This is not about you, do not be flattered by them putting you on a pedestal.

If they are intimidated by you and devalue themselves, this actually makes it more likely for them to leave. If this is the case, they will likely leave the relationship in a sudden, unexpected way with absolutely no warning or obvious reason. Their shame is often too great for them to connect with you despite their discomfort. They will also bring up their ex all the time for no reason - which is a sign of emotional unavailability.

Still up for giving it a go with someone who has avoidant attachment, or maybe have avoidant attachment yourself? Give this episode of my podcast a listen and learn more about how to notice avoidant people in the dating landscape.

RelationshipsSabrina ScottMarch 19, 2026dating, avoidance, avoidant attachment, love, intimacy, integrity

How to Avoid Avoidants: What to Look Out For When You're Single and Dating | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 231

People often talk smack about anxiously attached people, but how about those avoidant folks out here on these streets breaking everyone's heart into smithereens? In this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss anxious attachment, why they're the most common people to encounter in the dating landscape for all my fellow single people, what could have caused this, and some questions to ask and things to be on the lookout for as you date and try to avoid the avoidants!

RelationshipsSabrina ScottDecember 29, 2025avoidance, avoidant attachment, attachment, love

When Someone Breaks Up With You, Let Them. Why We Need To Let Go Of Closure | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 230

In this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss something we all experience at least once in our lives - the ending of relationships! Whether it's romantic or friendship, we've all had relationships end, and many of us have been dumped. I talk about how the best way to approach being dumped or left is simply to accept it, rather than fight it or seeking endless conversations and closure. I talk about how closure should come from within ourselves, and we should not rely on others for our own healing process and ability to move on. Closure is within you, nowhere else.

RelationshipsSabrina ScottDecember 29, 2025avoidant attachment, avoidance, dating, love, trauma, childhood trauma, breakups, closure

Why An “I’ll Do It Next Time” Attitude Is Complacent and Entitled | The Secrets of a Witch Podcast with Sabrina Scott episode 78

Okay, rant ahead! Consider this your warning! It hit me today that I’ve been teaching Magic Without Bullshit for 4 years, and I’ve heard the same excuse the entire 4 years - “I’ll do it next time.” Well, guess what? There may not be a next time. In this episode, I explain how this “later” attitude comes from a place of entitlement, complacency, and also taking creators for granted. I also relate this to how people take the clean environment for granted - while today Toronto has the third worst air quality in the world, and I wore a N95 outside to go get a coffee. My eyes stung like hell. When we expect things to always be around for next time - whether it’s the environment, our spouse, or a small business… we reveal some of our own mental weaknesses, and shoot our selves in the foot. We also are deluding ourselves - if we keep telling ourselves, “I’ll do it next year,” and it’s been 4 years. Step out of the delusion, and admit you really don’t care. Or maybe you do. If the time is now, email me - I’ll see you inside.

Mindset, CritiqueSabrina ScottJanuary 11, 2025mental health, entitlement, avoidance, living well