Possibly the episode I was most excited to record, and the one that has been the most personal and close to home for me! Amber was my yoga/pilates teacher for many years when I lived in downtown Toronto - I was at her studio for 10-15 hours a week at the top of my practice. Her movement style was deeply transformative, and I haven't found a movement teacher who is so magical and gifted before or since. If you were in touch with the yoga/pilates/dance scene in Toronto in the mid 2010's, you'll have heard of Misfit Studio and Amber Joliat. Many studios who came after hers, were deeply influenced by her style of movement, as well as the aesthetic of her studios.
During the mass "reckoning" of summer 2020, Amber was the target of much hate and vitriol, and ended up effectively "cancelled" by her own movement community of teachers and students. In this episode, we get into the deep dark depths of what happened, why it happened, and what we can all take from what all happened back then.
What happens when a successful, unique community later is scapegoated? What happens when someone is publicly shamed and ousted, despite not deserving it? What happens when someone's story is - ignorantly - rewritten for them? How can we heal when we lose everything - friends, family, business, opportunities, and our hometown?
We also talk about the nitty gritty of scaling a business, the balance of keeping our own hand in our own creation as we grow; we also get into the unique betrayal of sisterhood in wellness spaces, including the verbal and visceral mob violence unique to groups of women. It's so much easier to destroy someone, than create something of your own.
In this enlivening and enlightening conversaton with prolific author and tarot reader Theresa Reed, otherwise known as The Tarot Lady, we discuss interpersonal group dynamics, what happens when we try to find community (in tarot or spirituality, yoga, whatever) in dysfunctional and unhealed spaces when we ourselves are not healed or grounded.
We also discuss being lone wolves, in both life in general, in spiritual community, and in online business. Theresa shares about one of her life values, the importance of minding our own business, focusing on our own path and creative output. Theresa also shares about why she stopped reading tarot for the public, how drama is distracting from writing and creative output, and her rules for online engagement and career longevity.
We also discuss some toxic habits in tarot clients, as well as when tarot readers should refuse clients (and why)!
You won't want to miss this fun conversation!
Read MoreIn this episode of The Heal and Harm Show, I chat with amazing human and oracle and tarot deck creator Marisa de la Pena about her decks, why she took steps away from the spiritual, witchy, and tarot space, and what's inspired her to come back into the community after a few years away.
Marisa is the creator of Circo Tarot and the Persephone Tarot, and the How to Deal Tarot aquired by Harper Collins/Urban Outfitters.
We have a great conversation about Marisa's journey to tarot and magic, creating art as a way to work through pain and grief, moving away from ego, (and checking ourselves before e wreck ourselves), and the importance of moving back into the nitty gritty of spiritual work, and focusing on doing magic for/on ourselves.
We also talk about how punitive and policing aspects of the spiritual community have become, how to escape it, and how to re-enter community with what's truly important in mind. We talk about academia, the importance of using technology intelligently, and the vitality of becoming familiar with witchy/spiritual elders.
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